Yesterday, leading blogger, tech evangelist and speaker, Robert Scoble shared on Facebook eight ways to get him to “Delete Request” when you request his friendship on Facebook.
I thought Robert’s points were pretty good and mirrored some of my thinking when I get friend requests.
- Don’t have any public posts in past month. Automatically gets me to click “delete request.
- Don’t list your job title on your Intro/Profile/About.
- Don’t post anything interesting about the tech industry in your past 20 posts.
- Don’t have at least 20 mutual friends (I have more than 4,000, it shouldn’t be that hard). Even a few is better than zero. Particularly useful to figure out if someone is a real member of the mixed reality community.
- Don’t have a real photo of yourself anywhere.
- Don’t make it possible to follow you so I can dip my toe in the water.
- Post only selfies.
- Only post quotes or those stupid posts with the color background.
I’m not near as popular as Robert, I don’t get the requests he gets and I don’t have the number of Facebook friends he does.
But I am cognoscent of a number things when considering friend requests.
- Facebook caps the number of friends at 5,000. I am only North of 1,500 friends now, but things have a way of growing on the net.
- Whether people regularly post things of interest to me. I often receive Facebook requests from people who have posted little more than profile pictures over the last year.
- Complete profile listings – job title, contact into etc. I am not likely to friend people who are looking to be private on Facebook.
- Diverse interests and offerings. In addition to Facebook friends in the legal industry, my friends include journalists, corporate executives, authors, artists, college professors, financiers and others — in addition to personal friends. The more interesting and diverse my friends, the more value I’ll receive from my Newsfeed and the more interesting the people I get to know.
- Mutual friends. When I reach out to request friendship I look for people with whom I have at least 20 to 30 mutual friends. Common friends is something I also consider with requests.
- Sharing of both personal and professional items. It’s a combination of both that lets me get to know people.
- Post only their own articles and blog posts. Too many lawyers use Facebook as a distribution channel, as opposed to an engagement channel.
So it’s not that I don’t like you, that I don’t wnat to get to know you or don’t want to do business with you. If I delete your friend request on Facebook, it’s because of the things Scoble or I may consider.